Yet another “Secret”.
I recently received several emails about The Secret. I’m glad to see that so many people have either read the book or watched the movie. And yes, I realize it is very hard to change how you think and feel to get into The Secret “mindset”. It was hard for me too. And believe me it was hard to think that I drew some of the things I didn’t like about my life, to myself. Even though I did it totally unknowingly, as most of us usually do. Why? Because I was dwelling on those things, and angry at the people who I felt caused them. I was frustrated because I didn’t think I had any power over what happened. I thought about them with very passionate feelings. That mindset was not where I needed to be. Those feelings were entirely negative and often drew more anger and frustration to me.
The good part is when I realized what I was doing (about the 3rd time I watched the movie !) I was really upset with myself. I have had fabulous things come into my life by being focused and committed to what I was doing, and being excited about it. It seemed that I always found exactly what I needed to get things done and accomplish my goals. And yet I allowed the negative feelings I was having about other situations pull me down and keep me from reaching other goals. I had to learn to “let it go” or forgive the very people I felt had hurt me. Once I did, everything about the situations I was complaining about changed.
First and foremost, you have to let go of any and all anger that you feel about people and things in your past. Yes, it’s a very hard thing to do, because it is much easier to blame someone else for the things that have happened to us, than to realize that what happens in our lives is often the very thing we fear, worry and think about the most.
Why does that happen? Probably because those are the things we have the deepest feelings about and also the things we think about the most. The hardest thing to grasp is that we really are the ones in control. No one wants to feel like they draw bad things into their life. However, if you feel anger towards someone for what you feel they did to you, or caused you to do, then you need to find forgiveness. Until you release it, and learn from it, it will always block you from the joy and happiness you can intentionally bring into your life.
Try thinking about it like this . . . If you are in a restaurant, are you going to order something from the menu that you hate, that you know you can’t stand? That you absolutely wouldn’t even think of taking a bite of? No, you will order what sounds wonderful to you. Something you can hardly wait to taste or try. That’s what you should be doing in your life, ordering up the things you most want. But too often our focus is on what we don’t want. That can be just about anything from how we don’t want our children to behave, to someone we can’t stand, to an argument with a friend or loved one, to work, and on and on. And that is exactly what we get … our kids are horrid, work is someplace we don’t want to be, we are angry or frustrated with family members or friends, nothing seems to be going right. And then we say … what else is going to go wrong! And we open the door for even more stuff we don’t want. Actually, we are getting just what we ordered, exactly what we don’t really want. Those are the vibes or feelings we are putting out there. And that’s what we get back, exactly what we put out.
Feel good about you, feel good about who you are. Every experience in your life has helped make you who you are today, even the bad ones. If you want expanded experiences and feelings then bring them into your lives. It may sound crazy, but it really works.
I received an email from Karen, who told me that the hardest thing she ever did was to forgive a former friend for causing her to lose a large sum of money she had invested in his company. The company, which had great promise, didn’t make it. Due in large part to some bad decisions made by her friend, and Karen, recently divorced, had a very hard time dealing with the loss of the money she invested. She was very angry and resentful towards her friend for causing her that loss.
After she watched The Secret, she worked very hard to let go of her anger and forgive him. Every time she thought about it, she would turn her thoughts around and start thinking about things that made her happy or she would do something physical and totally focus on things she was thankful for. It finally worked. She told me that it took her several weeks, but she learned how to forgive and let go and that has made her a much happier person. In fact she now has a new love in her life and she doesn’t think she would have ever even met him if her mind set had stayed in anger. He is a very positive and upbeat person according to her, and probably wouldn’t even have given her a second look, let alone been attracted to her while she was in what she called her “anger mode”. Today she is a very, very happy woman looking forward to a lovely future.
Take a few moments and see if you have situations like that in your life. Can you turn them around? Can you forgive? Even if it’s hard to do? If you do, you may find your entire life changes. Isn’t that worth working on?
Until Later, Have A Beautiful Day,
Heart Hugs,
Susan Marie